we have no pictures to go along with this post. it is sad & it will happen to every parent; at least that's what we are telling ourselves...
my mom (heidi's mom, aka: karen, gram-mum) stayed with us from wednesday night until tonight. it was SO WONDERFUL to have her here to help finish the nursery (hhmm, did i say help? i guess i mean, to DO it... thanks mom!) & also to provide addy with endless entertainment that moves faster than i do these days. (we hope to get pictures up tomorrow of the finished nursery...just a few more things to do).
SIDENOTE: my mom also let wes & i go off for a friday night on the town. we ate at mongolian BBQ & then i became very nauseous (i was attempted to kickstart serious labor w/ spicy food, not a good idea) & so we sat & watched the fountains at easton for awhile; then we went to see "vicki christina barcelona" which is a woody allen movie recommended by my sister...we found it very funny, especially since it was the first movie we'd seen in a theater in almost a year. anyway, my mom managed to clean our house (dusting & vacuuming!) while we were gone & apparently addy helped. amazing things. we walked into the house after the movie, both of us saying "why does it smell so...clean?!" it was nearly miraculous.
so addy has enjoyed this visit with grammum...she was taught how to 'let mama take a rest' by patting my leg & giving me this pitiful look of 'oh no, mama!,' how to wash walls & launder baby clothes without trying all of them on, & also how to eat non-stop...her favorite thing to do when grandparents visit. addy also picked up a cold virus along the way this week, so having a buffer for her grumpiness was very handy.
today my dad came to pick up my mom & help wes brew a 'fresh hop' batch of beer...they picked a terrible day, it was 91 degrees outside (wes brews in a turkey fryer outside to avoid being killed by me b/c the house smells--to me--like rotten trash, but really is just hops & such). anyway, i'm getting a bit off subject here, but it's past my usual bedtime, so please excuse the rambling.
after a dinner of sonic burgers & tots, we sadly told addy that "grammum & pop pop are going home now..." addy gave me a total look of understanding & without hesitation, she grabbed her milk sippy cup off the table & sort of stood there with a look of 'i'm ready to go!' then a light bulb must have gone off in her head & she went over to her heavy diaper bag & started dragging it over towards me, mumbling something along the way...most likely it included 'i'm ready to go with them, i have my diaper bag & sippy cup...all the important things are here...' she appeared very determined to go home with them & not to stay at home! it just broke our parental hearts & warmed the grandparents' hearts all at once.
i know things have been a little boring around here for her, but i had NO IDEA it was this bad! however, we quickly recovered our status once we promised to take her to the park after g-mum & poppop left...we know how to manipulate our child, have no worries of that one.
3 days ago
I totally understand...it is hard to know Addy is gaining some independence.
ReplyDeleteHowever on the other side of things, you are also raising Addy in a trusting environment that ensures her that you will be there when she comes home from visits from other's houses. Think of it as a great thing you have done. Well done mom and dad! You have let addy know that your relationship with her is in the a safe mode and that you will be there.
At first, I thought you meant a new low because you forgot to take photos.....
ReplyDeleteChildren love strongly and easily either because they need to because they don't get it from their parents, OR they see it readily in their parents and therefore find it easy and normal to do likewise.
If olympian-heart Addy did not have sturdy parallel bars to flip about on, she would not ever let go and fly. Nor, love others as freely and strongly.
Every child needs to count 10 people on their fingers that love them that much. Addy is very blessed to be able to do that, even if one is canine.
I feel very blessed that we don't have to worry about our grandchildren's well being - they are all well cared for and well loved by their folks - we can just have the great fun of being their gmum and popop. And pour out the love and fun.
And not to make this too long, but this is just a smattering of what is to come. She will eagerly be wanting to launch on great adventures all of her life because she has been given such a great jumping off board. I know - it's something of how your mum's heart felt when her chicks "flew" off - delighted you are sturdy enough to do it - yet pained to see you go.
Well...at least Giswold didn't fetch his portable water dish and sit by the door too. I do think its awesome that you've raised Addy to be that independent and comfortable at such a young age, what an awesome milestone, even if it does hurt a little. I feel your pain...but my baby, how could my baby want anyone other than me? Just goes to show that Addy knows you are a constant and unchanging force in her life, she knows that you love her, you've been there and you'll always be there.. how sweet!
ReplyDelete